Not Everything Is for Everyone

All the sprinkles in the world wouldn’t make some people happy, and that shouldn’t stop you from living your best life.

October 21, 2022, is a day that will go down in Twitter history. It’s not a global event where the outside world rushes to Twitter to see what people are saying in real-time. This was an event that started and took on a life of its own within the bluebird atmosphere.

A woman named Daisey with the handle @lilplantmami tweeted out,

my husband and i wake up every morning and bring our coffee out to our garden and sit and talk for hours. every morning. it never gets old & we never run out of things to talk to. love him so much.

What a beautiful sentiment. Coffee in the garden. Sitting and talking for hours. The pure love in her heart as she beams about never running out of things to discuss with the man she loves. What could go wrong?

Apparently, lots of things! Here are a few replies that she received.

I hope you know how privileged that sounds. I bet most people have sacred things but aren’t as lucky. Doctors, teachers, social workers, and many more…

Don’t you guys go to work?

A lot of people didn’t wake up this morning at all and the only “coffee” they get is the bullets from the gun that shot them dead because they live in a war zone, but I’m glad you’re able to enjoy your mornings

The problem is the humble bragging while wilfully ignoring their extreme privilege. That’s what people are taking issue with. It isn’t complex.

My goodness, the salt is insane! I don’t have an official tally, but it looks like most people loved Daisey’s sentiment. Still, her simple message of pure joy enraged a decent number of strangers who hated the concept of a world where a woman would dare to enjoy morning coffee with her husband.

Twitter isn’t real life, though similar instances occur daily around you and me.

You know the people who go out of their way to tell you a movie sucks right after you tell them you enjoyed it.

You know the people who would never let their child eat ice cream on a school night right after you tell them your family had a wonderful time at Ben & Jerry’s last Tuesday.

The people who hate your favorite restaurant because a server nine years ago was relatively rude to them, and they just have to go out of their way to tell you this story every time the restaurant is mentioned.

It’s like there are some people who are operating under one set of rules; their own.

Writer and best-selling author Shea Serrano is no stranger to speaking his mind on Twitter. From socks with sandals to his love for the Fast and Furious franchise, Shea is unapologetically himself. At least from where I stand, Shea seems to be incredibly comfortable in his skin.

Often, someone will be in Shea’s mentions, ready to debate him on his opinions of movies, music, basketball, etc., and his response is almost always a version of “not everything is for everyone.”

Tweet by Shea Serrano

There are 7 billion people on Earth. If 99% of them loved ice cream, and 1% hated it, there would be 70 million people who hate ice cream. And if you’re one of the people who’d lambast someone for not loving ice cream like you do, why? Why do you care? What about their choice is affecting you in the slightest?

Among my biggest complaints with social media are people making content for an algorithm and not themselves. Specific songs go viral because that’s the song that helps you go viral, never mind the quality of the music or whether you actually enjoy it.

A specific aesthetic is trendy to the point that influencer feeds can hardly be differentiated between creators. Meanwhile, people are terrified to be themselves, fearing that stepping too far outside the norm will hurt them with the algorithm because complete strangers might not like their content.

We try so hard to stand out that we turn into everyone around us.

If you like a shirt, wear it.

If you like a song, play it.

If you want to spend Sunday mornings in your garden drinking coffee with your spouse, do it. So long as your decisions aren’t harming anyone else, what’s the big deal?

I want to see more people stepping into authenticity because some folks stay miserable for a living. You cannot appease these people! Trust me, I’ve worked in an ice cream shop. All the sprinkles in the world couldn’t make some people smile.

Their insecurities are not your concern.

Nickelback has 15 million monthly streams on Spotify. Some of you like Nickelback, so why are you lying about it? Their music isn’t for me, and I guarantee Chad Kroeger has never once thought, “I wonder if Ryan Rucker will like this song?”

There is something for everyone but not everything is for everyone. Go enjoy your coffee, and don’t let miserable people ruin your garden.